When It's No Longer About You...

Not that it was ever just about you. You will always have family members, friends and those in need to care about and for some, pray for. But there are two human relationships that just seem to change ones perspective in a huge way...your spouse and your child/children. No matter how close you are with a parent or with anyone else, there is nothing compared to these two persons in your life. If you are like me, you understand the oneness that exists between a husband and wife. This is because the marriage relationship reflects our relationship with G-d. If G-d is not in your heart or even in your vocabulary, you still will have some sense of understanding how important the relationship is (not unless you are a selfish or numb person). The deep emotions you feel for one another and the inner connectedness you feel are enough to tell you that hey, my spouse is someone pretty important. And then you have your first child together. Whether you believe that a child is a gift from G-d or not, you are pretty much presented with an opportunity...the opportunity to be a responsible caretaker for that child.

This is when all your hopes and dreams no longer are all about you. Everything you strive for...the finances, free time...all of your investments are not for you anymore. Even your time of personal leisure and hobby is not completely just for you. It refreshes you for another. If you want to be truly selfless, getting married and starting a family is a good way to do it. As for me, I'm glad I have faith to be my anchor.